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Joy Colleen (Cardwell) Shaw, age 76, of Vici, Oklahoma passed from this earth on March 4th, 2015. Joy was born to Clyde Milton Cardwell and Ruby Mae (Burkhart) Cardwell on July 14, 1938 in Colony, Oklahoma, the 4th child in a family of twelve surviving children. Following Joy’s birth, the ever-growing Cardwell family resided in the western Oklahoma towns of Thomas, Cordell, and Clinton, until finally settling in Medford, Oklahoma where Joy would complete her high school studies and graduate in 1956. Following high school, Joy enrolled in the Enid General Hospital School for Nursing where she graduated as a Registered Nurse in 1959. That same year Joy met her husband to be, Charles Warren Shaw, at Fort Supply, Oklahoma where she was completing the intern portion of her studies in the State Hospital there. They were joined in marriage on the 7th of March, 1960 in Enid, Oklahoma and soon departed for the Gupton-Jones College of Mortuary Science in Dallas, Texas where Charles earned a degree in Mortuary Science. To increase the opportunities for the young couple, Joy also earned her Funeral Director’s License during this time. Charles and Joy then joined the family firm, Shaw Funeral Home, in 1961 and took up residence in Leedey, Oklahoma. In this their first home together, their daughters Allyson Dru and Jennifer Jean were born. Three years later the family briefly left the firm for four years and lived in Edmond, Oklahoma where Charles helped establish the department of mortuary science in Edmond at Central State University. While residing in Edmond their son, Trevor Warren, was born. With the failing health of Charles’ father, the family returned to Vici in 1969 and assumed the operations of the Shaw Funeral Home. Charles and Joy would operate and manage the Shaw Funeral Home until semi-retirement in 2002 and Joy, although primarily assuming the role of homemaker, would regularly assist with funerals whenever she was needed. In 2011, while attending the Oklahoma Funeral Director’s Associations awards ceremony, Joy and Charles were recognized as the only husband-wife 50-year Funeral Directing team. Joy also maintained her nursing license until only recently and undertook various nursing jobs in Vici and Dewey County over the decades, served for a time as an Emergency Medical Technician for the Vici Ambulance Service, and was appointed as a Member of the Dewey County Board of Health. She also tried her hand at business, co-owning and operating the “Corner Place” variety store in downtown Vici for several years with her business partner Kathy Pierson in the early 1980’s. Joy’s life was one of passion and dedication for the activities, ideals, and institutions she held most dear. As a young woman she was active in choir, band, baton twirling, basketball, and cheerleading. She assisted her children in these same activities as they grew and adopted many of them themselves. To say that Joy was “crafty” was an understatement. She took up oil painting in the ‘70s and created many high-quality works of art. She also learned and enjoyed making stained-glass windows and several of the churches and buildings in Vici and a few other towns will be blessed with such windows for generations to come. Perhaps her most accomplished craft was sewing. She enjoyed sewing clothes for both herself and her children during their school years; however, her sewing skills matured and evolved over the years and Joy became a world-class quilt maker. She lovingly made dozens of award-winning quilt designs, which she often gave away to friends and family. Those lucky enough to possess one of her quilts are certain to have a family heirloom worthy of handing down to future generations. Joy was quite fond of the outdoors and especially enjoyed her golf outings with her girlfriends and fishing with friends and family – especially when pursing any of the trout species. She also enjoyed more solitary outdoor endeavors such as feeding her birds and squirrels in the backyard, and she always found lawn work to be very satisfying and relaxing. She loved her sports as well, although she preferred to consume them in the comfort of her living room. Like many Okies she became a fan of the Oklahoma City Thunder, but her favorite athletic pastime was rooting for the OU Sooners football team. Admittedly, she supported the OSU Cowboys too, but there was no doubt who she was rooting for on Bedlam Saturday. Joy was an accomplished and talented singer, performing in several choirs and singing groups throughout her high school, nursing school, and early married years, and then teaming with her equally vocally talented husband to sing either duets or as part of other choral groups. She was even selected to attend the Choral Ambassadors tour to Europe along with her sister Carrol and brother-in-law Danny Kennedy and nephew James Dark. Joy’s daughters inherited her vocal talents and continue to serve their churches and communities in the same tradition. Joy was a talented, caring and determined steward of the United Methodist Church in Vici. A member of the church since first moving to Vici, she tirelessly dedicated her time, management skills, and resources to ensure the health, morale, growth and modernization of her church home. There would be few who would dispute Joy’s participation was instrumental in conceiving, planning, and then executing the construction of the Vici Methodist Church’s present day sanctuary and fellowship hall. From framing walls, to hanging drywall, to painting trim, to actually crafting the stained-glass windows for the sanctuary, she was onsite to ensure all went well. She firmly believed these modernization efforts were necessary to promote the health and advancement of the congregation so it could continue to thrive in the years to come. She also enjoyed many mission trips, several of them international projects. She loved using her do-it-yourself skills for the benefit of those less fortunate than her. Joy was the long-time President of Vici’s United Methodist Women and served in that capacity at the district level as well. She was also routinely selected as the song leader for the UMW State Assembly meetings. Behind all these efforts was her dedication to God and his Savior, Lord Jesus Christ. An avid student of the Bible, she held her daily devotional time as sacred and necessary to advance her personal relationship with the Lord. Above all, Joy upheld the great commission of Christianity, living her daily life with integrity of the Christian faith – one which her family, friends, and others in daily life respected and emulated for the benefit of God’s kingdom. Perhaps her favorite and longest enduring passion was that of wife, mother and grandmother. She and Charles had fifty-two fulfilling years of marriage together, through the good and the bad with her sense of humor and faith firmly in place. Her children grew up knowing they were loved and treasured with a strong connection to family history and imbued with her love of music, film, and theater. Although her grandchildren always lived too far away for her liking, she took great pride in their accomplishments and enjoyed their unique and individual personalities. Visiting them was always a highlight of any of her travels. Joy was preceded in death by her husband, Charles Warren Shaw; Mother and Father; sisters Anna Clydean Dark and Carrol Ann Kennedy; and brothers Rodney Clay Cardwell, Loyal Delmo Cardwell, Archie Mervin Cardwell, and Royce Milton Cardwell. She is survived by her sisters Reba Lavon Skates, Vickey Fay Wirtz, and Janie Beth Loman; and her brothers Tommy Milton Cardwell, Rickey Ray Cardwell, and Danny Von Cardwell. Her daughter Allyson Dru, son-in-law George Martin Crosby, Granddaughter, Spencer Rebecca Crosby, Grandson Remington Clay Crosby, and Great-Grandson Silas Lucien Crosby, all of Montrose Colorado. Daughter Jennifer Jean, Son-in-Law Harry (Eddie) Jones, and Granddaughters Emily Joy Jones, Audra Elizabeth Jones, and Natalie Allyson Jones of LaVergne, Tennessee. Son, Trevor Warren Shaw, Daughter-in–law Michele Florine Shaw, Grandsons John Julian Warren Shaw, Charles Connor Warren Shaw; and Granddaughters Anita Hayley Michele Shaw, and Jennifer Erika Paige Shaw of Greensboro, North Carrolina. She is also survived by a huge number of beloved nieces, nephews, cousins and a countless host of dedicated friends – many of those friends being as important and dear to her as any family member. The number of family, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers that Joy Colleen Shaw has loved, influenced, or simply affected in some way during her lifetime can never truly be known, but one thing we do know is that number is significant and the effects of her life on all those who encountered her are real, beneficial, and lasting. Joy Shaw was a life-force that shone brightly for all; she was well-loved and she loved well! Funeral services were held Monday March 9, 2015 at 2:00 pm at the First United Methodist Church, Vici, Oklahoma with burial following in Riley Cemetery, Vici, Oklahoma. Condolences may be made to the family & Memorial Tribute viewed at shawfuneralhome.net. Shaw Funeral Home of Vici
Published on  March 10, 2015
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